On establishing a Stable Reality!!!

So in my quest for stable reality, i have gotten two useful perspectives to ponder:

First, a Ted converence video of a presentation given by dr eagleman

whereby he advises me to hold multiple perspectives

and secondly, a commencement speech given by somebody somewhere sent to me by an old friend...It points to how the way in which we construct reality is a choice. personal, intentional choice.

I've always known that to be true and thus have always carefully constructed my realities. I've chosen friends based on the reality i wanted to create, and have taken on beliefs about morality based on what i wanted to become.

Both the video and the speech advise me to be open minded. In the speech, the writer suggests that the liberal arts institution teaching you 'how to think' is more about teaching you how to exercise control over how and what you think, of being aware enough to consciously choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience.

So here's my favorite quote: (after suggesting new ways of seeing the banal, via describing how the person in the hummer who cut you off may be rushing to the hospital because his child is injured, or how the woman who yelled at her kid in the checkout aisle is actually the person who helped your spouse in some beaurocratic act of kindness...)

Of course, none of this is likely, but it's also not impossible. It just depends what you want to consider. If you're automatically sure that you know what reality is, and you are operating on your default setting, then you, like me, probably won't consider possibilities that aren't annoying and miserable. But if you really learn how to pay attention, then you will know there are other options. It will actually be within your power to experience a crowded, hot, slow, consumer-hell type situation as not only meaningful, but sacred, on fire with the same force that made the stars: love, fellowship, the mystical oneness of all things deep down. Not that that mystical stuff is necessarily true. The only thing that's capital-T True is that you get to decide how you're gonna try to see it. You get to consciously decide what has meaning and what doesn't. You get to decide what to worship.
Because here's something else that's weird but true: in the day-to-day trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshipping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship.




So i have more to say about this, but i am suddenly inspired to give my momma a massage because she deserves it and i need to be of service.